Consider a 14 years old teenager. How should he make decisions related to sex?
He doesn’t yet know sex and love. He is inexperienced. He cannot make decisions based on his own knowledge or experience.
He need somebody or something to guide him.
A thing which can help him is biblical commandments.
If he would already know all about sex and all about its consequences (not even any adult knows all!) he would not need the commandments. He would not need the Bible.
Commandments are for these who don’t know something.
When we mature, we no more need some commandments. I, for example, don’t need that Bible would teach me not to marry an unbeliever. It is quite natural for me the knowledge that I can’t make a good family with an unbeliever. I know this in my inner man and don’t need that Bible would teach me this.
There are two extremes:
Extreme 1 is to reject commandments altogether (as for example atheists do).
This way you could deny the wisdom of God and try to behave based only on your limited mind without help of God. This is not a good way.
Extreme 2 is to scrutinize to follow every commandment you know whether you understand it or not.
This is also not a good way. We should live by knowledge and faith (and love!) not by particular commandments.
This way is to make Bible a law for you, rather than a guide. This is also not good.
This extreme is caused by not knowing limits of applying biblical covenants to our life and trying to follow them in every tiny bit aspect of our life.
Failure to reject the law
We may set our mind not to fall into the extreme 2. But trying to do this in my old religion, I failed.
My failure was this way:
I understood that I should follow the spirit of Gospel not the commandments.
But how do I know the spirit of Gospel if not by studying particular commandments? This way I found no other way to follow my understanding of Gospel as to follow every commandment as a law.
Certainly, this way I often violated more important commandments trying to follow every tiny bit of the law I made for myself from Gospel.
The teaching of End of Gospel
The solution is to reject following Gospel as a law altogether.
We cannot reject following commandments of Gospel as a law one-by-one, rather we need to reject living by a law altogether.
For this we need understand where are the limits of Gospel as a whole are and that we need to reject being in the so called New Covenant with God altogether. We should become free persons rather than law-followers slaves.
We become no more slaves of God in this new stage.
Read my book End of Gospel about this.